Many people are afraid of being alone, maybe even yourself. It feels natural since we are social animals. But it seems to be causing a huge anxiety and FOMO (fear of missing out) problem that leads to people becoming selfish and feeling entitled, would you say? When a person becomes afraid to be alone, anxiety kicks in, they start texting their friends, calling people, trying to satisfy their deceiving need for attention. So what happens when we are happy being alone? What happens when we learn to be at peace with ourselves? The simple answer is in the question itself, we become ok with ourselves, we live in peace, self love, and clarity in our life then appears. We start to also attract everything we are meant to in our life due to the fact we become more whole with ourself with a better understanding of ourself and our qualities and purpose.
Let's go over the art of being alone and what it takes to find peace and happiness with ourselves. It's not easy, it takes will power like anything, but once practiced and mastered, eternity in peace will live with you in every experience.
Here are 5 practices that can make being alone not only enjoyable but very beneficial.
1. Face The Facts
The fact is, that no matter what happens in life and where you go and end up, the only person you will ever have to live with for the rest of your life, is you and yourself. Only you can control your own thoughts, words, actions, feelings, and decisions you make that lead you to where you are. Life is a challenge of aligning you and your full potential. To learn yourself, know yourself, and master yourself. To be the best self you can be, which starts internally. It starts with accepting yourself and where you are now. The lessons you have to learn from your experiences and what got you to where you are. To have faith in new experiences as part of the journey to discovering your strengths and passions. To do any of this, it starts with you and ends with you.
Here is an Exercise:
Find the one place or environment you find the most enjoyment and happiness, and place yourself in it alone. Observe your surroundings and acknowledge it's existence. Think about the facts above and come to peace with it. Be patient as you think and be alone.
2. Accept Yourself From Where You Are
Where you are now, is all you currently have, so to move on and grow from here, you must first find acceptance and lesson in it. Think about what got you to where you are now and seek what you may have learned from your past that created the good in your current life. Acknowledge and accept the losses and failures, and find what you may have taken away from them that will make you a better person today. Make sure your focus is on judging your own thoughts rather than getting emotionally attached to any thoughts others may have of you. Acknowledge that others thoughts are their thoughts, you don't gain anything from fearing it. Instead align it with your own thoughts and values and acknowledge what matters to you and find lesson in it for your own growth.
Here is an Exercise:
Again place yourself in a space you feel comfortable and most yourself. Take your time to process your thoughts, your past experiences, and it's lessons that created the current good in your life. Acknowledge the decisions you made that may have led to any not so good results in your current life, and process what you can take away from it that you can apply the new learnings today toward a better future. And acknowledge you cannot change your past but you can accept where you are now and make better decisions towards a better future. We are here to continue growing as a part of life.
3. Learn Yourself & Understand Yourself